Friends with benefits. A very popular relationship status between friends nowadays. But is actually beneficial or does it just make things more complicated? Personally, I believe that it’s fine, and whatever happens, happens. If you get too attached, and it is a one way thing, that is your own fault. You know what is going on between yourself and that person so you just have to control your emotions. However that’s not to say the other person isn’t feeling the same! Most people believe that it’s always the girl that becomes more attached, which is probably right, as girls are more expressive of their emotions. On the other hand guys get jealous easy, they might not show it, but if he saw her getting with someone else, there would definitely be a strike of jealously! Being friends with benefits can have its positives:
- Companionship without having to commit. That means you can still have the cuddles etc. at night without feeling like you have to do it, or feeling bad if you’re a very busy person and you don’t have enough time to spend with that person like most couples would.
- Safe sex. They’re your friend, you can trust them and talk about stuff that could be awkward with someone else.
- Going with your bodies urge. It’s only natural to be sexually attracted to someone and releasing what needs to be released is healthy! Also sex burns calories.
- Eventually might both realise that you do actually want to be exclusive with each other! Much like the film ‘Friends with Benefits‘, with Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis, check it out.
And it has it’s negatives:
- Loss of a friend. As I said one person may become more attached or jealous if the other hooks up with someone else. This may cause tension and arguments, which means you’ll drift apart.
- It might make you think you never want to be in an official relationship with someone if you can carry on having just sex with people.
Anyway dolls, if you feel comfortable and canaccept the consequences, which could be good or bad, there is nothing wrong with the concept!
Everyone must love to experiment where they have sex right? Am I wrong in thinking it’s only natural to want to get frisky in risky places. The thought of getting caught heightens the sensation. One of my favourites has been the swimming pool changing rooms… Other precarious places I’ve heard of are: telephone boxes, elevators, work stock rooms and the list goes on. A healthy sex life should DEMAND this frenzy. What other adventurous places needs to be tried out?
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